When the should hits the fan

If you're reading this, I'm sure I won't need the hard sell to convince you how much grief blows bollocks. Although I am gonna do something hypocritical, and tell you something you should do about your grief. Now, usually, I hate it when people tell me what I should do. I friend of mine says "don't should on me," and she's right. But hear me out.

Everyone in grief should find someone, anyone, who they feel comfortable talking about their grief to for more than one conversation. I was lucky enough to have Dr. Alan Wolfelt visit my town recently to speak about grief, and he drew a distinction between grief and mourning. Grief is you, yourself, and, well, you. Mourning, however, is about sharing your story with others. If you don't have anybody in your life who lets you talk about your grief, find one. Call a local hospice or funeral home and see if they know of any grief support groups in your area. I go to three. And we love seeing new faces: it's a new person to share our story with. And we want to hear your story, too. Because it makes our own grief more human and less monstrous to hear about others'.

I know this post isn't that funny. But it is a bit smug/douchey, so that's something, right? I don't want to try and convince you that I'm some kind of grief expert or that I'm 'better' at grief than you. I titled my last post "Fuck Spring," so you know I've still got grief issues. But I do want to report back to you guys stuff that I've found helpful. Although, if I'm gonna talk about 'should,' you can be sure I'm gonna throw real experts, like Dr. Wolfelt, cheerfully under the bus.